3 Things Jesus Will Never Criticize You For

by Kevin on March 15, 2012

One of the worst experiences of my life came in a conversation with my son. Very few times in my life have I felt like my heart was going to break. I hope I never experience this again.

My son has a way of either arguing or addin’ to anything I tell him to do. If I tell him to sit down and eat, he gets up and washes his hands. If I say somethin’ to him about it, he reminds me that his mother told him to always wash his hands before he eats. If he chooses to be a lawyer when he grows up, he’ll be a rich one.

I had told him to go clean his room one day and he found forty-two other things to do besides go clean. I don’t remember exactly what they were, but it was probably something like: take a shower (again), use the bathroom (again), get a drink of water (again), blow his nose (again), look for an item that his sister lost three years ago out in the arena (again), and then get something to eat (which makes him thirsty…again).

I’d finally had enough and I must admit that I lost my cool. I’m not a screamer, but I don’t have to be. I can wither people with my tone of voice alone…especially my kids. I’m not proud of this, but let’s just be real about life and not go around acting like we’re all not a little guilty of something like this.

I told him, “You get in your room right now and don’t do another thing until you get that room cleaned up!”

He started to say something, but I cut him off. “Don’t even say a word!! Not one word…”

“…but, dad”

“What part of ‘Don’t say anything and don’t do anything else’ do you not understand? Don’t even answer, just go do WHAT I TOLD YOU TO DO!”

Big tears welled up in his eyes and he started to turn around. Let him cry, I thought to myself. He should have done what I asked him to do.

At the last minute, he turned around quickly and hugged me. The words he spoke shattered my heart.

With just a whisper and very quickly he said, “I was just going to say I’m sorry and that I love you. Please don’t be mad.”

Instead of encouraging my son, I criticized him. Instead of loving my son, I made him cry. Instead of forgiving him, I was condemning….and my heart will forever bear the scars of my actions.

Society has told us to criticize everything that we don’t agree with. Society tells us to point out the faults of others. Society tells us to reprimand, discourage, and put-down everything that is contrary to what we think and feel.

But that’s not what Jesus said to do…

3 Things Jesus Will Never Criticize You For

 Encouragement

Instead of criticizing someone for doing something wrong, try encouraging them for doing something right!

You must encourage one another each day. And you must keep on while there is still a time that can be called “today.” If you don’t, then sin may fool some of you and make you stubborn. Hebrews 3:13 (Contemporary English Version)

Love

One day we will all stand in front of God and answer for the things that we’ve done. I know with all my heart that God will never count it a mistake if you loved someone…especially those who wronged us, hurt us, or talked nine-kinds of smack about everything we did wrong.

And let us consider how we may spur each other on towards love and good deeds. Hebrews 10:24 (NIV)

Forgiveness

This is probably the toughest of them all. Some people say that you only forgive those who repent and seek forgiveness. Others will say that you must forgive anything that anyone does, no matter the circumstance. The one thing I know is that Jesus will never get on to you for forgiving.

Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37 (NIV)

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  • Well said, Kevin…well said!

  • Ed

    Ouch! I’ve had more than one encounter with both of my children like that and I still carry the wounds.

  • Greg Box

    Good Morning Kevin,

    Wow – Thank you for another awesome devotional!

    I could see and feel the hurt over again in my heart through your words and expressions, because I have been there too, and I have failed miserably, but with only the Grace and Love and Forgiveness that Our Awesome Most Powerful God has for us, I’m continually work in progress and by and only with HIM I can strive to do what HE wants me to do, I’ll have to admit it’s not an easy trail, but Really beats the fire of being hung up and dragged through a mesquite flat full of prickly pear!

    Thanks again Kevin, and as always, All God’s Blessings To You And Your Family,

    Greg

  • Loved this one! Thanks for the reminder to Encourage, Love, and Forgive!

  • Gail Davis

    We are raising 4 grandkids and one Sunday morning the pastor asked if anyone wanted to come up and tell what they were thankful for. My then 8-year-old (with Asperger’s Syndrome) kept raising his hand and I kept putting it down, scolding him; he had no idea what the pastor was talking about. Finally, the pastor saw him and asked him to come up while I hung my head in embarassment until I heard his words: “I thank God for giving us to our Mema and Papa. They love us and take care of us and we have a good home with them.” Never again have I tried to stifle his testimony.

    Gail

  • Linda

    This is a tough situation. I have kids that do the same thing and sometimes I end up yelling too.

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