5 Rules That Will Change Your Family’s Life

by Kevin on September 16, 2010

There is a magazine that has been at our house for probably 10 years. I have never looked at it until the other day. I think God kept this magazine from being thrown away until I read an article on Kirk Cameron. His household goes by 5 rules and I think every cowboy in America should adopt them as their own. I don’t think Kirk would mind.

1. Love God

This should be the foremost goal of every day’s work. This is why we were made. It is the purpose of our lives. When Jesus spoke of the commandments, he said they could be summarized into two statements. The first thing he said was, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart.All your soul. And all your mind.” The second was to “Love your neighbor”.

2. Family First

How often have you put work or play in front of your family? Society tells us that in order to be successful, we are supposed to work long hours and sacrifice everything that is dear to us so that we can keep ahead of the Jones’. For a Christian, this is exactly the opposite of what we should be doing. We should put our family first and trust God that he will provide for the things that we need. Your kids don’t need new horses, they need their parent’s love and attention. Your spouse doesn’t need new clothes, they need your love and support.

3. Be Kind

Some will say I am being hypocritical with what I am about to write, but I write it with love in my heart. If you can’t say something nice then just be quiet (I deleted shut-up three times, I am trying). Stop with the negativity, criticism, orneriness, and opinions. Just be nice to each other.

The Apostle Paul says, “Do not repay evil with evil.” (Romans 12:17) Even Jesus in Luke 6:27-35 tells us to love (be kind) everyone. If you are only kind when shown kindness you are not loving like he commands us. Even sinners can be nice to those who are nice first. We must be kind in all situations. This is when we are really allowing the Love of God to shine through us–when we are kind when there is no cause to be.

4. Tell the Truth

There is no greater cowboy moral than to be a man of your word. Lying is, in my opinion, the most abundant sin in the world. It is the easiest to correct, but they hardest to accomplish. Just tell the truth and keep your word.

5. Work Hard

This may seem out of place after we have already discussed family first. Working hard doesn’t mean work 100 hours a day and neglect your family. It means that whatever you are doing, do it for the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). God has provided you a job, so you need to work hard at doin’ that job. God has provided you a house, so you need to take care of it. God has blessed you with a family, so you need to love them. Whatever you do, do it for God and work hard at it.

I encourage everyone to sit down with their families and adopt these rules. What do you think your household would be like if everyone loved God, put their family first, treated each other with kindness, told the truth, and worked hard?

These aren’t just good guidelines for our homes, they are the building blocks of the Church. These should be observed by all churches as well.

Do you have a set of rules your ranch goes by?

Can you think of any other things to include in this?

Please share this with someone that you were thinking about when you were reading. You might just be the Titus (read here) that brings them encouragement when they need it.

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  • Can’t imagine Kirk Cameron in a cowboy movie. The mind picture of him in chaps and boots just doesn’t work for me. Reminds me more of City Slickers than True Grit.

    But he does have some great advice for families. Thanks for sharing it.


  • Tammie Schmidt

    I have lived by these life principals for most of my life. They have served me well.

  • Will be reminding the guys at our family meeting tonight! Then they’ll know it’s just not Mom and Dad that think this way!
    Thanks again,

  • Well I’m a little late jumping in but just thought I’d say that there’s something really powerful about sitting down and making a point of adopting these five things. For myself I kind of try to hold to them on an informal basis, but there’s no accountability and growth that way. Sitting down, like you say Kevin, and making a point of saying “this what this family believes” is hugely powerful.

    • Kevin

      Our family has adopted these and I must say, it’s working. Even our foster daughter can nearly repeat all of them and she is only four.

  • And I’m even later than Seiji (I’ve been a stranger in these parts lately, and I’m worse off for it!)

    I find that churches are good at preaching #2, but not so good at demonstrating it. I’ve seen way too many burned out pastors who have very little family life, and volunteers who are already busy doing stuff for the church are never discouraged from doing more.

    • Kevin

      I took Monday off for that very reason. Turned my phone off and everything. I needed to recharge so I could be a good husband and dad. Took me a while to catch up on Tuesday, but I got it done.

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