The Gelding of the Christian Man

by Kevin on May 4, 2011

A popular website says “Gelding a male horse allows it to be calmer and better-behaved, making the animal quieter, gentler and potentially more suitable as an everyday working animal.”

Walk into a lot (not all) of traditional churches and this is exactly what they are doing to the men.

Men want to be men. They don’t mind going to a place filled with Christians, but they will balk every time about going to a place filled with sissies. If you were to ask most men why they don’t want to go to church, this is probably what he’d say:

I ain’t gonna be part of a group of men that all they do is sit around in their fancy shoes and sing Kum-Ba-Ya while holding hands. That church stuff teaches that if somebody punches you in the nose that you can’t do nothin’ but let ’em hit you again–and love ’em for hittin’ you.

I watch these “Christian Men” eating at the cafe after they get done with their sing alongs, and I’m tellin’ you they look gelded to me. There is no fire in their eyes. There’s a weakness about them in the way they carry themselves. All this hugging and loving stuff these churches are teaching ain’t doing nothing but gelding good men.

How are we supposed to reach the lost when they think like this? How are we supposed to convince these outlaws and mavericks that Christ is the only way when it seems like the first thing the church does is take away their manhood.

The first guys Jesus went and got were twelve MEN. We know for sure that five of them were fishermen and one of them was a mobster (they called ’em tax collectors back then). Jesus picked these types of guys because he knew he needed strong, courageous, and honest men to learn from him and carry out his message.

We forget sometimes that Peter would kick the crap out of you where the good Lord put a crack in you. He was constantly getting in trouble and cutting people’s ears off. Pete was quick tempered, opinionated, and absolutely loved by Jesus.

And let’s not forget James and John…the Sons of Thunder. Messengers were sent into a Samaritan village to announce that Jesus would be arriving there and the village didn’t welcome him. The Sons of Thunder wanted to call down fire from heaven and burn up every man, woman, and child in the village. Jesus didn’t let them, but I’m sure he loved their gusto in sticking up for him.

You may think that I’m being sarcastic, but I have felt gelded ever since I became a preacher–but those days are over now.

  • I still love you in every way, but if you are rude to me, I will try to walk away and forget. But if you continue to get in my face, I’m gonna love you enough not to let you do that.
  • Your family isn’t perfect either. No longer will I sit here and let you tell me how bad my kids are or the fact that you don’t think what my wife is wearing is appropriate attire for a preacher’s wife.
  • If you start causing problems and dissension in the church and you call yourself a Christian, I’m going to go to you in love and try to help you. If you continue, I’m going to throw you out on your head just like the Apostle Paul said to do.
  • If you have the audacity to say it to me, then you’ll need the gumption to hear my response.

God doesn’t want gelded men that are “calmer and better-behaved, making them quieter, gentler and potentially more suitable as an everyday working animal.”

He wants fierce warriors that are willing to follow him into battle against the gates of hell. He wants people that will be brave enough to make themselves a living sacrifice and ride through the rattlesnakes and coyotes to reach that lost sheep in the back corner of the pasture.

Jesus is looking for people that want to call down fire from heaven for taking prayer out of school. He wants the attitude (not the deed) of Peter when people try to take him out of our society.

The Bible Studies are fantastic for strategic planning–but get off your butts and into the battle. Singing five hundred stanzas of a song is fantastic–but use that as a rally call for when you rush into the fight.

We’ve got a bunch of good bible students and philosophers. What we need are more warriors. We need those cowboys and cowgirls that will ride with Jesus when he comes back and it not be their first battle.

11 I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and wages war. 12 His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns. He has a name written on him that no one knows but he himself. 13 He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God. 14 The armies of heaven were following him, riding on white horses and dressed in fine linen, white and clean. 15 Coming out of his mouth is a sharp sword with which to strike down the nations. β€œHe will rule them with an iron scepter.” He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty. 16 On his robe and on his thigh he has this name written:

KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS. (Revelation 19:11-16 NIV)

When I get to heaven, I hope that I’m dirty, bloody, nasty, and beat to hell from the work I’ve been doing for God.

The verse above says that God will clean me up with some clean clothes and I will ride back into battle one last time following the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.

Will you be riding with me?

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  • Greg Box

    Amen Cowboy!

  • Wayne Anson

    I did a series on the 12 images of God in men. It made my geldings and their women curious but mad. I talked about the insights in WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH (a great book). It resulted in an attempt to neuter me by the head gelding and his filly. Character assination is a terrible thing in the hands of a gelding.

    I agree that most churches expect their pastors to be geldings. They have “holified” it but it is still a grave assault on the spiritual gift of pastoring. Our pastors pay a dreadful price whether they try to live within that description or buck it. Our churches themselves have been severely neutered in the process.

    By the way, what the gelding taught his son, who used to be my close friend, finally scared the young man out of his calling to ministry and preparation by in depth sitting under bible scholars. The result? A wild ride through the pastures of sensuality unleashed via sexually immoral living and other moral compromise. It was dreadful. The young stallion became Satan’s raging pawn rather than a thing of rugged beauty and Godly strength.

    Guess you know where I stand on this issue.

    ps. my balls still hurt from the neutering.

    • Kevin

      I am going to have to get that book it sounds like. I think my temporary “gelding” was more of a self induced than by my church, but it was the result of what I thought pastors were supposed to be. Not any more!!!

      I would love to see or hear your series by the way.

      As far as the young man you spoke of goes, men are going to be men. We all have that wild, untamed side of us that has to have an outlet. We are constantly going to explode like a stick of dynamite. It’s the way God made us. I think what we have to do as Christians, is help men funnel that energy. Instead of just exploding like a fire-cracker, we need to put them in the barrel of a tank and shoot them straight at the heart of Satan and everything he stands for.

      If we don’t do this, Satan sure will….just like you described.

      • Kevin, I still mourn for myself (God is helping me regain strength and perspective) and for the churches that are as saddled by Satan’s false light as what I described. I mourn for young men who grow up in churches and somehow don’t have the help and strong arms and hands that help restrain, but more so channel the “men are going to be men” part of God’s created image in us. I think I lost the twelve parts of that series on the computer when I did some incomplete copying during a crash. However, I know (I should) have them in written form and hope to have time to ferret them out (you understand what can happen when a man moves – and I have twice since then). When I do the plan is to revise them and blog them.

        Keep up the good ministry. You are a man’s man just like every Christian man should be.

  • Chris

    When people were selling things in the temple, Jesus didn’t walk in and say “Come on guys….will you please stop? I don’t feel good about what you’re doing. PLEEEEASE stop? Pretty please??” Jesus got a whip and went Indiana Jones style on them.

    I’m in the middle of a situation right now that’s showing me why it’s good to be decisive and to call a spade a spade, even if nice people are going to get their feelings hurt. The tricky part for us is that somehow, even as we take a whip after someone, there has to be love behind it, and recognition that Jesus died for this person too…that’s not easy, certainly not for me.

    • Kevin

      You know, even when Paul said to cast the people out of the church and give ’em to Satan, he was doing it out of love so that they might see the error of their ways and RETURN!!!

      I heard a cowboy say this one time…”Everybody knows that man or woman in the church that does nothing except create grief for everyone else. You know, I wonder why nobody ever loved them enough to walk up and tell them to shut up?”

      • I am going to have to remember that one! Love ’em enough to tell them to shut up!

  • Amen Kevin!

    I think a lot of the gelding has been a result of people pleasing. As much as I love the heart of the Seeker Sensitive movement, it did manage to remove any firm foundation of conviction. When you’re convicted you don’t think twice about cutting off someone’s ear, but thankfully Jesus is hanging around telling us to cool it when it comes to that point.

    I wish I could say I was in a place where I really could be bold and convicted but the truth is that there are a lot of things where that just isn’t the case. I think this is the start of a season of transformation don’t you?

    • Kevin

      Yeah, I hope folks understand that I’m not talking about cutting people’s ears off or punching people in the face or calling fire down from heaven. But….I think we need that kind of fire in our spirit in order to truly find the courage to take the Gospel message out to the world like Jesus told us to.

      You ask if this is a season of transformation…you bet I think it is. Especially for you!! The future holds things far greater and of more importance than you will ever know and you play a great BIG part of it. I will be proud to have said I knew you amigo.

  • Walt

    Thank you for that message. I realy needed to hear that this morning. A lot of people let their egos and their attitudes get in the way. We are men even better we are christian men and we shouldn’t be afraid to stand up for ourselves and our families. If we have issuse with someone else we should be able to take it straight to them because we love them not because we are mad.

    • Kevin

      That’s it Walt!! A man should not have to lay down and roll over like a whipped dog just because he follows Jesus. How many men are going to say, “Hey, that’s what I want for my life!”

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  • Artie

    Amen, brother. Keep preaching.

    • Kevin

      Thanks Artie!!

  • Great stuff, Kevin! When we follow Jesus we seek peace and offer love from a position of strength, not weakness. Other men should be able to always see the fire in our eyes, even when we are turning the other cheek or praying for those who do us wrong. Following Jesus should never be passive! And one more thing- I always wanted to be one of the Sons of Thunder- maybe we could start a 21st century chapter! Keep preaching, my friend!

    • Kevin

      I hereby declare the informal formation of the 21st Century Chapter of Sons of Thunder and Carl is the champion. (Go check out his blog and you’ll see why I say that.)

  • Thank you brother for that message. May more warriors saddle up and demonstrate the strength and gentleness that Jesus showed us. Not weakness and pansyism. But power, honor and unfaltering focus toward Gods kingdom.

    • Kevin

      I will try to avoid all aspects of Christian “pansysims”!

  • Good’un Kevin, good’un!!

    • Kevin

      Thanks Tom!! I know God is going to work great things up there in Minnesota!!

  • Another good one Kevin. I’m going to that fierce warrior. If the devil isn’t sick of me yet. He will be really soon!! Be blessed this week.

    • Kevin

      Amen amigo….AMEN!! I’ll ride with you to the gates of hell and back.

  • Saved this one. Took awhile to read it knowing it was a target issue in addressing the fatherless generation. I’ve come to call ours the “Gelded Nation.” A thesis of my book just now shifting from head and notes to this keyboard, is that it takes more than one generation to prepare the calves of the newest generation for the really troubling times ahead. We old timers have fewer geldings, it seems, than the PC and feminized men that are now our fathers. Wild West attitude, “I can do it myself” is fine for The Duke in the movies, but have you ever tried to drive a herd alone? I did once. ONCE. I still remember because once I got them out of the steep walled valley they went their own way. Parenting is more serious than pushing a few cows. So, why do we do it alone? Once they get out of the confines of the steep-walled home life, they go their own way. Bring the old man into the equation. If you don’t quite get along, fix that. Or, if you must, find another dad, uncle, elder, pastor as a “companion dad”.

    OK, back to the book. But I like this enough, I think I’ll paste it in somewhere.

    • Kevin

      Thanks Gary! When we no longer need the wisdom of those that have traveled trails before us is the exact point we become lost.

  • Kevin, after reading all of this…all I can say is: Booyah, Brother! Ride a war horse!

    Job 39:19-25
    “Do you give the horse its strength or clothe its neck with a flowing mane? Do you make it leap like a locust, striking terror with its proud snorting? It paws fiercely, rejoicing in its strength, and charges into the fray. It laughs at fear, afraid of nothing; it does not shy away from the sword. The quiver rattles against its side, along with the flashing spear and lance. In frenzied excitement it eats up the ground; it cannot stand still when the trumpet sounds. At the blast of the trumpet it snorts, ‘Aha!’ It catches the scent of battle from afar, the shout of commanders and the battle cry.

  • Steph

    I whole-heartedly agree!!! Even I’ve had enough with the lovey-dovey man- feelings crap when sometimes we just need our men to stand up, get mad, and DO something about it. Stand up and fight and speak his mind! I’ll be sharing this… A lot.

    (If Mister hikes his leg on the furniture after this, I’m comin after you with the rolled up newspaper… Just sayin’)

  • TJ

    I wish I lived closer to you. I long for a pastor who will take care of business. I am so sick of churches that are run by the ones that have been there longer or give the most money. God bless you for doing what is right when it needs to be done.

  • Brother I promise you that women don’t want geldings either, unless they are pleasure riding or working horses. Strong women of faith want strong men – we need their strength, fire and passion to match our own. Warriors, regardless of gender, can exhibit the fruits of the spirit and live the greatest commandment WITHOUT losing one bit of strength, integrity, witness or voice.

    Warriors and cowgirls want someone who saddles their own horse, rides hard, fights with honour, and is still able to love them. I may be a Serenity Prayer failure but I won’t ever stay behind in the corral when Jesus is telling us all to saddle up and ride!

    God bless you brother for your courage, and honest heart.

  • MBrown

    Excellent article. This is something my husband and I were talking about just recently. I found this yesterday and sent it to him, he said you hit the nail on the head. Churches have soaked up the societal norm of feminizing men instead of supporting and encouraging them to be the warriors God calls them to be, both in church and in day to day life. Thank you for calling it like it is. This world needs more views that are black and white, and people with a backbone to stand up for truth. God bless.

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