The War on Hypocrisy: What’s Worse? Bitches, Jackasses, or Hypocrites

by Kevin on October 16, 2013

Warning: Very strong language used in this post. It is not intended to offend, but to open the eyes and hearts to Jesus’ love for us all.

As I stood talking to a cowboy that had come to church for the first time, I tried to make him feel comfortable and let him know that I was going to be a friend to him, not preach and wag my finger at him. I’d seen him pull up and he had a good looking border collie dog on the flatbed of his pickup. He’d given her a pet and a few unheard words and then he had walked inside.

Once the handshakes were done, I asked him about his dog. His face lit up and he began to come alive where at first he was shy and apprehensive.

And then it happened…

In about the first four sentences, with “church men and ladies” standing nearby, he stated, in typical cowboy volume, “Molly is the best one that ever came from my good bitch.”

I never blinked. I never bobbled. I never even looked around.

I didn’t have to.

You could feel the atmosphere change. People had gotten offended. But there was one cowboy that I was 100% certain was not offended, and it was He that we were there to worship. His name is Jesus.

Another time, two cowboys were talking, not unlike the previous story and they were discussing coyote problems. I guarantee you that they used the word “jackass” in regard to a guard donkey about 1,000 times. They sure weren’t meaning to offend. They were just two cowboys, using the vernacular that their grandaddies used to describe the creature. Shoot, they used the same terminology the bible did!

And the “good Christians” got offended…and that pisses me off.

A while back, I posted the picture below on Save the Cowboy’s Facebook Fan Page .

too damn comfortable

This morning, I was looking through the comments and it was awesome that most of them were “amens”, but one guy had felt the need to chastise me so he placed one scripture in there.

Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. – Ephesians 5:4 ESV

I bet this guy walked around feeling so holy and righteous because he got the chance to put that ornery cowboy preacher in his place with God’s Word. But in actuality, he did more damage to the gathering of the lost than my use of the word “damn”.

Jesus said in the 23rd chapter of Matthew that the hypocrites would stand in the gate and refuse to go into the Kingdom of God and they wouldn’t let anyone else in either. This is a perfect example. In another instance, Jesus said to get the plank out of our own eye before we worry about the speck in someone else’s.

Let me explain.

That verse seems right. If you take that whole sentence, without the rest of the bible, it seems that our hypocrite has a point. But wait!

In Matthew 18, Jesus tells us that if our brother (fellow Christian) offends us, that we are to go to him in private and tell him that. If that doesn’t work, then take someone else and try again. Then, if all efforts have failed, bring it up before the church leaders.

Likewise, Paul tells us in Romans 14 not to get in a tizzy over disputable matters.

So here’s the deal. That fella didn’t have to like my choice of words, but instead of acting in love, he chose to use scripture to publicly denounce me and try to “point out my fault”…all the while, by NOT doing what scripture told him to do. He didn’t go to me in private so we could talk about it. He didn’t send me a one on one message or anything. I wonder, did he even pray about it before he wrote it? Oh, I keep forgetting; hypocrites don’t have to pray about anything because they are so holy that they don’t need to.

We have put way too much emphasis on words instead of the Word. Christians today spend more time nitpicking other believers instead of loving on one another like Jesus told us to do.

There are people that quit attending Save the Cowboy because they didn’t like something I said or did, but yet they never came up to me and tried to work it out or even tell me what it was. And Save the Cowboy isn’t the only one out there. People leave churches every day, without talking to the pastor or whoever else offended them, and then they go tell everyone why they left.

They stand in the gate and refuse to go in and won’t let anyone else in either.

I call all of you that do this yellow! Yellow backed cowards…

I see “Christians” calling out people like Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer, Rick Warren, John Piper, Matthew Paul Turner, and Kevin Weatherby. Did they go to any of us in private? Hell no they didn’t. They judged…publicly denounced, ridiculed, and offered nothing but condemnation on someone they’ve never even spoken to. They call them false prophets, but I promise you, the hypocrites in the church will send more people to hell than any supposed false prophet will.

It is not the message the hypocrites speak against, it is the methods. Jesus went through the same thing. The hypocrites of his day didn’t like him eating with whores and sinners. They sure didn’t like it when he kept an adulteress woman from being killed. They didn’t like him healing people on the Sabbath or him forgiving people of their sins.

If I have to, I will beg all of you hypocrites, on my hands and knees, to repent from your evil ways and turn to God. Show mercy…show forgiveness…show love…

But whatever you do, get the hell out of the gate. Me and some cowboys have gathered the lost and are bringing people to eternity through that Gate that is Jesus Christ.

…and I will use the language they know and understand to gather them…even if it offends you.

(P.S. There is a contact form at www.savethecowboy.com for any that feel the need to be man…whether that be to discuss your offense, or to saddle up and help us gather.)

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  • Christine

    As I read this it all makes sense to me some of the most hypocrites will not lift a finger to help a neighbor but will be glad to say they did. I love reading all that you have to say. Just keep on. Thank you
    & Amen

    • Kevin

      Thank you Christine…and you are exactly right.

  • Just so happy you are keeping it REAL. Love your posts……..Xoxo

    • Kevin

      Thanks for all your support Patricia.

      • Brian Becker

        Mornin Pard —- well said and thanks — found that link you left me for ur stories — will be checkin into it since im off FB now — sure do miss ur posts tho — ya ever bin out ridin or such in a big open field or pasture — and the morning fog moves in or a snow squall and ur busy doin stuff — and don’t notice it — and when ya look up – she’s all white – an u aint got a clue where the heck ya are in that pasture — was out ridin Shy the other nite – this happened — kinda knew where I was but weren’t real sure — so since I wanted to head fer the bunkhouse – I jus let her reins go lose – give her a lite kick and home she took me — as I sat there – snow swirlin and blindin me — it seems like that’s the way things are to me this las while — maybe I need to do what I did with Shy — let the Lords reins lose and let him take me where He wants me — jus a thot a mine —- take care and yep ur doin good work pard- much obliged

        • Brian, I just want to thank you for not only trust’n in the Lord to guide you but also in your horse! Not a lot of folks know how to trust in anything these days. When I was a wee bit younger 12/13 we moved to a ranch (now called Silverbrook) and I went through one to many gates and yep, I shed a tear or two cuz I was lost. But I too just let my mare take the reins and boom about an hour or so later, I was back to familiar territory. I knew back then there was a God just that he wasn’t a part of my top priorities. However, He is now and I am still horse’n around and have never been lost again! I pray that God takes hold of your reins and you to my friend will never be lost again. Hope you don’t mind me sharing this with ya.

        • Brian, I have to smile at the memory your story about riding Shy in a storm brought to mind. I rode my horse, Pep, on a new trail one day, which had several forks along the way. Well, on the way back, I couldn’t remember which one was the way back to the barn, so I chose my best guess. Pep knew better, and he pulled the reins (which I always held loosely) and his nose pointed down a different trail. I remember thinking, “Here we go–hope you’re right, buddy.” He was. I trusted him with my life and he saw me home safe. I remember that now, when my faith in God needs a boost.

          • Brian Becker

            Ubet Lynne – faith is whay im havin a mite bit of trouble with — but we’re gittin there 🙂

            • Brian Becker

              **What**

  • I am a great-grandma (just saying to let you you know my age!) that so appreciates your straight forward approach to ‘religion’. I applaud you and pray you can continue to reach the ones who need Jesus right where they are, bad words and all!!

    • Kevin

      Thank you Sheri!!

  • Diane Carpenter

    Great post, Kevin. Everyone learns by example, and that, to me, means that when you are faced with a situation that is unpleasant or offensive to you, the way you react to it is the way others will react to it. I believe, like you, that if you have a problem with someone then you need to talk to them first. I work for the Douglas County Sheriff’s Office, and I am surrounded by a lot of people who really don’t like our agency/me (because I work for the agency) and they call me some very choice names. I can’t fly off the handle and tell them where to go. I have to talk to them one on one to help them through their hardship and to help them see that there is a better way to handle things. Being a Christian is like that too. Yes, I see people doing things that are decidedly Un-Christian, but I don’t condemn them because I know that I have made a lot of mistakes in my life too. Thank you for speaking your mind and leading by example.

    • Kevin

      Thank you Diane. You keep up the good work and keep loving people even when they don’t want to be loved.

  • Well first of all – a breeding dog (as you know) is a bitch. It is a perfectly good technical term. I am the top female in my house – the alpha bitch. (Although I prefer to be called Mama, or dear ). A donkey can be an ass or a male: jack-ass. A mixed breed dog is a mutt. Someone who don’t saddle his own horses, plough his own fields or work his own cows is a dude. And dudes don’t bring in the harvest brother.

    There is nothing offensive about your post, or your words. And I am thankful for your bold ministry, and your courage.

    Acts 4:29
    Now, Lord, consider their threats and enable your servants to speak your word with great boldness.

    Joshua 1:9
    Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

    1 Corinthians 16:13
    Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.

    Standing with you in prayer. And in love. Bless you brother.

    (Oh and I LOVE the image of cowboys bringing them in to the gates – we need us some good dogs to clear the path of those blocking it – I think my Border Collie and Catahoula would like to help!)

    • Kevin

      Preach it girl!! Thanks for being one of those that I know will always be there for me…helping me to bring them in.

      • 😀 You got it pardner, we’ll bring em from the north country!

  • Jan Roat

    Thank YOU! I’m a, mom, grandma and great grandma. I’m also a writer so try hard to use correct words; including bitch (a female dog) and jackass (male donkey). Sometimes it’s the ‘soft’ answer that gets the point across: Once had someone call me a bitch, and I replied; well my little dog does think I’m her mom, so that fits.
    Also told someone I ‘didn’t have the proper sexual organs to be a jackass, but jenny would work’.
    Please keep administering to us all! I so enjoy your page and share often.

    • Kevin

      You are my kind of grandma, Jan!!! (Was the comma in the right spot there? lol)

  • Dawn Jernigan

    You are a breath of fresh air to me. You are real and authentic. My past carries so much sin that I appreciate those willing to be themselves and call it like it is. As a trucker’s daughter and a veteran my own mouth can still let loose at times (hammer to thumb, etc) , and I cringe when I hear it. I talk to the Lord about it if it is really offensive then I kick the dust off and move on. Life is for living and He says what is forgiven, not man. I personally believe that His blood can cover my mouth and any crap that comes out of it.

    I cannot stand holier than thou’s and to be honest I have to work to relate with those who have just barely sinned at all – and they have a hard time understanding how passionate I am about Jesus Christ. I used to do a prison ministry and I was well loved because I accepted the women as is and loved them. Truth be told I was more comfortable with the prisoners than many of the “church ladies”.

    REAL people relate to you, please do not change. You have no idea how far your ministry is reaching but you are a harvest worker my friend. May God continue to bless you and use you to further His Kingdom!

    God bless you,
    Dawn

    P.S. For the record you are 100% correct with the post: “The problem today is that most people are too damn comfortable”….

    “George Barna, the American researcher on religious habits, found disturbing results from his study on the motivations of many Christians in American society. “We are not a society that simply enjoys its time off. We are driven by our leisure appetites. It is increasingly common to hear of people turning down job offers because the hours or other responsibilities would interfere with their hobbies, fitness regimens and other free time activities. Even our spending habits show that playing has become a major priority. The average household spends more money on entertainment than it does clothing, health care, furniture or gasoline.”

    His study also found that many people define success in surprisingly non-Christian terms: He found that 66% of Americans define success in life as the acquisition of sufficient money, education, material possessions or career prestige; only 7 percent related success to their faith condition and its influence upon their life. “The Christian Church has stagnated, largely due to its comfort with routines and rituals that are neither challenging nor relevant for millions of people,” said Barna.*”

    Work to Play, Work to Acquire
    TGIF Today God Is First Volume 2 by Os Hillman

    • Kevin

      Thank you Dawn!!

      • Christine

        I so agree with Dawn. I am the same I gotta a mouth on me too sometimes but I am honest..I love the Lord & I talk to him whenever I please. There is no certain time that needs to happen. It maybe 1 or 5 times a day. I know when I die the lord is gonna welcome me. I have lots of errors to speak of but I love life. I am a Mother & Wife & Nana to 5 grandchildren. I teach them also to be honest. I love what you do & how you speak Kevin so you just keep on going.

  • Glenna Wichert

    The self righteous have run more people away from the church than anything. Brings to mind of a church I once attended where the elite talked, gossiped and ran a pastor down. Trying to get me to take sides, I became very upset. Why did they not go to him in private or even as a group with their concerns. To make a long story short, that poor man left the church. My constant answer, was talk to him and pray for him. He was a good man unjustly condemned on the words of a few jackasses.

    • Kevin

      That is the reason that statistics say that 1,700 pastors leave the ministry every month. But you know what? Jackasses are supposed to protect the sheep from the wolves. I hope I have a 1000 jackasses in my church to run all the wolves off. lol

      Thanks for your support Glenna and God bless.

      • Glenna Wichert

        Ah. A new perspective. My brother in law uses jackasses to protect his cows. Point taken. You men of God are under the microscope of life and I admire your stamina when it comes mouthy members. God bless you and may you always have His favor.

  • EXCELLENT article!! It really hits home with me. I find myself a hypocrite. I was just talking about this type of thing in our pre-service prayer Sunday. I used the example of two homosexuals – holding hands or a homeless person smelling of booze and vomit. The sinner – the Unpolished non-Christian MUST begin to feel Welcomed into the House of God. Thank you, Bobbi – Apron Talk

    • And – YES – we are ALL sinners. I didn’t mean we aren’t. 🙂

    • Kevin

      I don’t preach against certain sins. Not that I condone any sin…I don’t, but sin is when you do something you know you shouldn’t do. How in the world would you pick out just one?

      Since I don’t preach against sin, I just preach the cure…and there is only one cure–Jesus Christ.

  • Janell Butts

    Kevin…

    I pray from the bottom of my heart that those testings get less and less …but they won’t, you are a great warrior to GOD..so any right we all do will be all tested to see where our heart truly lays… we can not stop the testings..but what we are in full control of is our thoughts and actions… and whether we are putting God first..please keep fighting the fights you do..because you have a whole lot of believers…that count on you to keep pushing us to God..and making us accountable and responsible for the good and bad choices we make.. YOU ROCK..PREACHER… have a beautiful day ..Thank you for going thru fire to help me..

    • Kevin

      Thanks Janell

  • KC

    This is the exact reason I will not attend a church where I live, although I think the pastor is a wonderful guy! There are so many people who act like they are part of this secret society that my family could not ever attempt to be part of because we are stock contractors for rodeo … we even have a certain family member who cheated on his wife, got a divorce and now is trying to not pay child support but thinks he is the finest Christian that ever stepped foot on this Earth. I wish we were closer to you because I would be one of those renegade types that scatters everything at the gate just to get through! Thanks Kevin, from the lost in Wyoming.

    • Kevin

      KC, I don’t think you’re lost. You just haven’t found the right place yet. I would like to invite you to watch our services online. You can do that from our website every Sunday morning or you can go there and see the replay.

      http://www.savethecowboy.com

  • Shawn Parker

    Kevin, I just recently started watching your sermons on Sunday mornings a couple of weeks ago. I caught the second sermon in this series and it has been a gut-check to say the least! I am very thankful I started watching when I did………………….and I am thankful that your words made me face the fact that I am hypocrite and have been one most of my life. Since that first Sunday, my prayers include asking for help to STOP! Of course, I still fail a lot each day, but I do better than I did before. I know I’ll never be perfect in this or anything else, but I believe that my effort and desire to change is what makes the difference.

    In regards to the remark from this fella……………………I have been that guy to someone before and I know that what you have said about it is the truth!

    I am very thankful I found “Save the Cowboy”! I’m in SE AZ and I attend Mustang Mountain Cowboy Church in the evening on Sunday and it’s awesome because it is the last thing I do before Monday rolls around. Since I found you folks, I get to see your sermons broadcast live for a start to my day.

    Any way, thank you for being there.

    God Bless,
    Shawn Parker

    • Kevin

      Shawn, a hypocrite wouldn’t have said the things you said. The truth is, we all fight this every single day…if we don’t, that is the surest sign that we’ve gone back to our hypocritical ways.

      I have a saying, “If God gets on to me about something I did, I pray that he says, ‘You shouldn’t have loved them that much.'”

      (But do you think he ever would?)

  • TIM

    Kevin, thank you for not letting this moldy feed that the hypocrites have to through out there push you away from the passion GOD has Blessed you with for the TRUTH of HIS WORD…
    GOD is sssook um in to HIS feed troughs, where you and the Save the Cowboy Ministry keeping them filled with HIS word and LOVE.
    The words KC shared are a Blessing to hear, of how hungry we all are for the TRUTH…….
    GO WITH GOD!!!!!

    • Kevin

      Let’s ride amigo!!

  • Kellee

    Kevin, I walked away from God in anger and you were the one who helped guide me back to where I need to be. Your way of preaching and being able to reach out to people is one that can not questioned by anyone. When I first started coming to church in Kiowa I met a very dear friend who gave me a book “Jesus Calling”. There is a verse that makes me think of you each time I read it. “Jesus does his greatest work through people with grateful, trusting hearts.” Be true to yourself Cowboy!

  • Randy Aday

    You speak the truth young lady. We all speak in a manner which we are raised or brought up in. I will not change my manner of speaking, but you will understand when I’m done. It will be your responsibility to accept my manner, as I do yours. Keep the faith going youngone.

    • Kevin

      Did you just call me a young lady? lol

  • Kevin,
    You seem to have more value for people than to try and make them appear to be Holy or Righteous. Way to go man. If it’s not about people we’ve miss it for sure. Keep being real, real people can see through the phony stuff.
    CC

    • Kevin

      Thanks Cody! You’re right, it is about loving people…

      …and we make things so hard.

  • I love the posts you write, Brother! I not only print out a copy for my own files, I print one out for the preacher at Cowboy church and forward it on to another Cowboy church preacher. I’m gonna add a link to my blog, AND I’m pinnin’ you to Pinterest. Most important–I’m prayin’ for you and your ministry–go for it.

    I’m a M.R.C.G.P. (Mighty Religious CowGirl Poet) myself, and I wrote a book of cowboy poems and essays, LESSONS & BLESSONS. I’d like to send you a copy. Is there a PO Box I can address it to?

    In The Trail Boss’s Name,
    Evelyn Edgett (aka Bible Babe)

    • Kevin

      I would be honored…

      Save the Cowboy
      POB 428
      Kiowa, CO 80117

      • Got the address–will have one out to you ASAP.

  • Gail

    Morning Kevin!

    I love all your messages (you speak to me in my language, on my level) but I was wondering about one thing. You said, “They call them false prophets, but I promise you, the hypocrites in the church will send more people to hell than any supposed false prophet will.” I’ve always considered hypocrites the same as false prophets. Not nitpicking here, just wondering.

    Keep on doing what you were called to do.

    Gail

    • Kevin

      You’re right…I think they are two sides to the same coin.

      But if you are looking for a distinction, then it might be that false prophets will tell you that there is another way to eternal life, or forgiveness, or happiness, other than Jesus Christ. Jesus said, “I’m the way, the truth, and the life…no one comes to the father except through the son.”

      A hypocrite might not tell you there is another way, but they stand in the gate and won’t let you go in. They do this by shaming you into thinking that you don’t deserve God’s love or forgiveness. They add rules to things that push people away from God. For example, I performed a wedding ceremony for a couple that had been turned down by another pastor. This couple had been living in sin and repented of it and wanted to get married before God. He wouldn’t marry them because they were living in sin….

      They could very easily have just said to hell with it and gone to the courthouse and got married.

      This pastor wasn’t saying that there was another way to heaven (false prophet), but I feel he was sure enough standing in the gate.

  • Harl

    Kevin I like your preaching style. Direct and to the point with a touch of humor. May God bless you and your ministry. Keep it going.

    • Kevin

      Thanks Harl.

  • Jo

    This is the first post I have read off this site and it hit me like a ton of bricks! You are so very correct. My dad was one of the best men, cowboys, dad ever and he used salty language all of the time. It was just part of who he was and at 91 I was not going to try and change him! BUT…..he sure knew Jesus and knew that he was part of God’s family of believers. Thank you so much for speaking the truth and reminding us to not be so “righteous!”

    • Kevin

      I don’t always use the best language myself. That isn’t a justification to to use the Lord’s name in vain or even an excuse to cuss.

      But a hypocrite will call down hellfire and brimstone if you say shit, but then turn around and gossip and talk trash about everyone.

      Which one of these two reveals the true nature of someone’s heart?

  • Lucy ann Mayo

    AMEN! Keep doing what you are doing! God continues to bless!! I have benefited from your sermons in a lot of ways! God bless you!

  • Merc

    My faith has wandered in and out of religion for a while, but upon findin your page on Facebook I found my faith again. I like your honesty and the way that you teach. If you weren’t so up front with the “in your face attitude” I would’ve scrolled by it. Thank you for helpin to bring me back to the scriptures. You still have support behind you.

  • I love this post! Awesome and I do mean it in all sense of the word. Thank you brother…keep em coming!

  • Elsa Ferne

    Alot of times while I’m inviting someone to come to church, they will say, “Oh, I don’t want to go sit with all those hypocrites.” When that happens, I just look them right in the eye, and say, “Well, I’d rather sit with them in church for an hour, than to spend eternity in Hell with them!”

  • Helen

    (But whatever you do, get the hell out of the gate. Me and some cowboys have gathered the lost and are bringing people to eternity through that Gate that is Jesus Christ.
    …and I will use the language they know and understand to gather them…even if it offends you.)

    Jesus was surrounded by sinners, he did that so he could save them, not judge them. I wish more people would realize that and stop judging and start trying to save people. I am scared for my children because this world tries so hard to keep God out of it by using terms like getting offended. God is my salvation and he is what gets me through my days.

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